Just Give a Crap!

I am one of those people who tend to be very independent. I am also one of those people who takes care of others. I know quite a few people like this and we all seem to have to the same “beef.” We seem to get forgotten about quite often. Every difficult, or even happy, situation I have gone through in my life, I feel unimportant. I know we should not compare our lives to others, but it is disheartening to watch other people be encircled by their friends, co-workers, and family during these times when I am not that fortunate. Don’t missunderstand me, I am super grateful to those few who have been there for me. I also think it is awesome that people have that kind of support; the reason I am jealous!


Being a military member or spouse makes this situation all the more difficult for a few reasons:


(1) Normally, you do not have family near you to attend those happy moments or support you during the tough ones. The active duty other half’s unit becomes your family (or not, depending on the climate). Sometimes they check in on you (like the same day of the month to fill a quota), but what someone really needs is for those little things to be noticed; maybe like that day you are trying to hide your flushed face after crying or an over-exuberant smile because you are just busting at the seams with good news.


(2) You get a new best friend and friends every time you PCS (move) or your friends PCS. Sometimes you will go months or even years without either because the fit just isn’t there. I am in that boat right now. My latest best friend for the last 2 plus years PCS’d the same month my husband went on his remote tour. My newest friend went TDY (temporary duty) two months after. Now, I am without a local friend.


I often wonder when people stopped caring about people. I hear songs that talk about –if you call me, I will drop everything and be there-. Where are those people? We are a society of “keep your nose in your own business” when we need to be aware of others in a positive way, not a negative way like calling child services on your neighbor because YOU feel they were too mean to their kid that one day. Or, sorry my life of perfect dinners and TV is WAY more important than your need for support. Maybe, we could encourage each other a little more and make the world a better place; MAYBE.

This post is dedicated to Jarred! Thank you for bugging me to write another post :)