My Journey - Do I Make You Uncomfortable?

Edward Lewis: “what’s your name?” Vivian: “what do you want it to be?” – Pretty Woman

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Why would I even start a post like that?! Because, this is what most of my life reminds me of. I spent a large part of my life being what everyone else expected or wanted me to be. Of course, keeping up a charade can be difficult, so I would be rebellious every now and again. This did not go over well. Why would it? I am not behaving as expected. Pretending for so long led me to not even knowing who I am. I was a shell of a human being just going through the motions.

I have finally rediscovered who I am and dare I say “I like me.” I even like the parts of me that are shaped by adversity and make me “unhealthy” according to mental health experts. 

Dating - What's Wrong With Being Single?

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Towards the end of last year I decided to start taking dating seriously. I was fed up with not having my needs met. I started evaluating why things were not going as well as I wanted them to. I enlisted the help of a friend…well he decided he was going to keep  me from making the same mistakes I always have because he said I deserve way more than I have gotten in the past. Since then I have not had a frivolous encounter, have either cut off or friend zoned dudes that were not meeting my needs, and have not been on a date because every dude wants to “just have fun.”

Dating - Wait! Not So Fast...

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As I navigate this online dating thing of which I am taking a bit more seriously this time around, I have noticed that standards seem to be expected to be lower in this online world than in real life. I would like to dive into this phenomenon and examine it.

Dating - Seriously!? The App Dating World is Interesting

My ex and I separated in April of 2014. I did not realize at the time how hard dating would end up being. I am not sure if it is because of my age or because times have changed so much since I was last single. I attempted this dating thing a few times since then and they were epic fails. I took some time off, first because I was exhausted and frustrated, and second because I felt like I needed a plan. That break lasted about 6 months and I am back at it again.